Often times the early months of a marriage can feel unproblematic and exciting. Overtime the newness wears off and couples may experience issues that may be important to discuss with a professional therapist. Problems in marriage are felt even in the most successful long-term relationships and involve ongoing effort and compromise by both partners to resolve them. Building healthy communication patterns early in your relationship can establish a solid foundation for the long run and can provide a healthier and happier marriage.
Disagreements in a relationship are not only normal but, if constructively resolved, actually strengthen the relationship. It is inevitable that there will be times of sadness, tension, or outright anger between you and your partner. The source of these problems may lie in unrealistic/unreasonable demands, unexplored expectations, or unresolved issues/behaviors in one partner or in the relationship. Resolving conflicts requires honesty, a willingness to consider your partner’s perspective even if you don’t fully understand it, and lots of communication.
If you are feeling distressed about your relationship, you may wish to consider individual or couples counseling. Counseling can help you identify problematic patterns in your current relationship and teach you more effective ways of relating. If you are struggling with a relationship problem and would like some help, we encourage you to contact us at Horizon Therapy Group.